So often in love, particularly romantic love, we want those who don’t want us and don’t want those who do. Pairing failures are inevitable, having to do with taste, personality, education level,…
Originally published in November, 2017 on Lindsey Gendke’s blog, Writing to My Roots. Life held no joy. I dreaded every day. I didn’t understand my behavior, so I couldn’t help myself. And I was…
Self-care is everywhere we look these days—images of tanned, beautiful bodies in cross-legged yoga bliss; blogs about taking time to unwind written by the overextended; day spas and smoothie bars promising health…
One sunshiney Florida day, my family took a ride in our speedboat. The boat’s construction placed the passengers in the bow and the driver in the back. I’d jumped into the driver’s…
Normally I like to dwell on the positive and be upbeat, constructive, and solution-focused. Just for now, though, I’m going to list seven deadly psychological sins that, if left to themselves, will…
A Buddhist form of meditation called “mindfulness meditation” has taken the mental health field by storm. It has produced many well-documented positive effects and has been basically touted as a panacea for…
As I researched infant bonding for my latest book, a far-reaching reality slowly dawned on me: we were created for a peace found only in love. Here’s that reality in neurological terms: A…
Emotions start wars. Although they are invisible, weightless, and volumeless, they are nonetheless very real and very powerful. To stuff them is really to engage in a futility, for they will come…
Negatively interpreting other people can create terrible frustration in a relationship. We human beings love to be known and perceived correctly. In fact, in most cases, we’re willing to let go of…